Doug [not his real name]
joined our small self-help group and found new hope of strength for today and new
possibilities of an improved life in a better tomorrow. I had recently joined this
group that was primarily students, but included a few non-students, and we met at
the Seminary where most of us were students.
All of us were active participants and there were no sideline spectators. Some were earning academic
credits. A few faced issues with which they needed some assistance. In time, all of us would experience much more than just an academic credit as we discovered areas of personal growth and maturity and became more thoroughly committed disciples, in a group
setting that was covenanted together in a circle of trust using the focus of
Integrity Therapy developed by Dr. John Drakeford and Hobart Mowrer.
Doug was a member of the
group when I came in. He had been dismissed from his Church Staff position after
his third arrest, losing first his job and eventually his family. This floundering church musician now existed as a man without a country, until joining this
small, close-knit circle of Christians. In the eleventh hour of Doug’s career, he
came into the group and they loved him in spite of his homosexual behavior, giving
him a place in their circle and room to rediscover himself.
Everyone accepted Doug as
he was; socially rejected, personally defeated, without friend and sustenance,
and at the end of his rope. He knew he was loved although he no longer loved
himself. He had the support of the group just as he was, and time and space to become
who he wanted to be, as well as encouragement to become all he could be in Jesus
Christ.
Tediously, Doug scratched
and clawed his way out of his emotional pit of hopeless disparagement and
social abandonment. By the grace of God and the encouragement of his Circle of Support,
life took on a new look for Doug, with new meaning.
Life for Doug slowly turned
from a journey of repetitious defeat to a life of recovery in which he
discovered God’s transforming power of metamorphosis. Like the tiny worm in
nature that disappears into its cocoon and later reappears as a lovely Monarch
Butterfly, Doug discovered happiness, wholeness, and a whole new sense of personal
well-being.
The group taught Doug how
to interact--openly and honestly, without rationalization and deception. Each group
member became a conduit of God’s grace, as living waters of God’s healing grace
flowed through our interrelationships and poured Doug’s life. Doug found new
reason to hope for tomorrow through his new relationships with his new friends.
Through Christian
discipleship, Doug discovered fresh reassurance when he discovered, “And such were some of you” (I Corinthians 6:22, RSV, italics added).
Supported by this trusted circle of friends, Doug took the necessary time and
painfully worked his way through responsible restitution and restoration of
formerly broken relationships.
Doug consequently discovered
new peace where once he had known only turmoil. New possibilities for further
transformation of life invigorated him and he experienced further satisfaction
in productive behavior and wholesome relationships. Like the Psalmist David, Doug
discovered a new man within--a man after God’s own heart, a man of strong faith,
an overcomer in spite of earlier failures.
Like many others whose personal
struggles the Bible reveals, Doug eventually found that in his new friendship
with the Lord Jesus Christ he had tapped into that power line described in John’s
gospel as power “to become children of God” (John 1:12 RSV).
From Warner's World, I am
walkingwithwarner.blogspot.com
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