Ginny and Manny Feldman married. Three years later, they sat down in their LA home and wrote out some guidelines they called "The Marriage Creed." They copyrighted their guidelines for a successful marriage and printed 100 copies. Eleven years later, they had distributed 100 million copies. Eventually they quit their jobs and the two educator-counsellors sold their home and car and went into debt and went broke for a while. Many years later, the Marriage Creed is as good as ever.
COMFORT EACH OTHER.....Provide a refuge and sanctuary for each other from the chill winds of the world. Your marriage is a hearth, from whence comes the peace, harmony, and warmth of soul and spirit.
CARESS AS YOU WOULD BE CARESSED.....Warm your loved one's body with your healing touch. Remember that as babies can die with lack of touching, so can marriages wither from lack of closeness.
BE A FRIEND AND PARTNER.....Friendship can be a peaceful island, separate and apart, in a world of turmoil and strife. Reflect upon the tranquility of the many future years you can share with a true friend, and beware of becoming battling enemies under the same roof.
LISTEN TO EACH OTHER.....And hear not only words, but also the non-language of tone, mood, and expression. Learn to listen to understand rather than listening to argue.
RESPECT EACH OTHER'S RIGHTS.....Remember that each is a person of flesh and blood, entitled to his or her own choices and mistakes. Each owns himself, and has the right to equality.
ALLOW THE OTHER TO BE AN INDIVIDUAL.....Seek not to create for each other a new mold that can only fit with much discomfort and pain. Accept the other as they are, as you would have yourself accepted.
GIVE EACH OTHER APPROVAL.....Remember criticism divides, while compliments encourage confidence in the other. Hasten not to point out the other's mistakes, for each will soon discover his own.
CHERISH YOUR UNION.....Let no one come between your togetherness, not child, not friend, nor worldly goods. Yet maintain enough separateness to allow each other his or her own unique oneness.
LOVE ONE ANOTHER.....Love is your river of life--your eternal source of recreating yourselves. Above all else--love one another. (C) 1971 by Emmanuel M. and Virginia L. Feldman
A good marriage is a gift from God, available to all who will make it work. walkingwithwarner,blogspot.com _____
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